A Stress-Free Playbook for Parents
If you are feeling a little nervous about how your young kids or toddlers will behave during family photos, let me stop you right there and give you a huge high five: you are completely normal, and your kids are going to be great.
As a family photographer, I expect kids to be kids. That means running around, showing off their favorite dance moves, getting distracted by cool leaves on the ground, or needing a minute to warm up. I never expect toddlers to stand perfectly still or smile on command (honestly, that would be pretty boring anyway!).
My goal is to capture genuine laughter, real connection, and the sweet, playful stage your family is in right now.
Here are my top tips to make session day fun, relaxed, and totally meltdown-proof for your little ones.
1. Ditch the "Say Cheese" Talk
In the days leading up to our shoot, try not to place too much pressure on "behaving" or "smiling for the camera."
When kids hear "You better smile for Aaron!" or "If you don't sit still, we won't go get ice cream," it often creates unexpected anxiety. Instead, frame our session as a fun outdoor adventure or a playdate!
Tell them: "We’re going to meet up with our friend Aaron at the park, run around, explore, and play some games together!"
2. The Golden Rule: Fed & Rested
A well-fed, well-rested child is a happy child!
Plan around nap times: When we schedule your session, we’ll make sure it works around your child’s sweet spot during the day.
Pack mess-free snacks: Bring easy-to-eat treats that won't stain their clothes, mess up lipstick, or leave colorful residue on their tongues. Mini marshmallows, yogurt melts, mini chocolate chips, or raisins are lifesavers for quick energy boosts!
Bring water: Hydration keeps energy grounded, especially for outdoor golden hour sessions.
3. Let Go of Perfection (I’ve Got You Covered)
Once you arrive at our session, your only job is to relax, love on your kids, and enjoy being together. Hand the reins over to me!
If your child runs off, breaks away from a hug, or decides they only want to pick up sticks, don't stress and don't panic. Some of the most beautiful, iconic family portraits happen during those spontaneous, unscripted moments in between "poses."
If you stay calm, laughing, and engaged with your kids, they will feed off your relaxed energy. If you get frustrated or start sternly reprimanding them, they’ll pick up on the tension. Just laugh it off and let me guide the flow!
4. Bring Their Favorite Comfort Items
If your toddler has a special blanket, a favorite small stuffed animal, or a cool toy they refuse to leave home without, bring it along!
We can easily incorporate it into a few cozy shots, or use it as a familiar comfort item when they need a quick two-minute break.
5. We Move at Their Pace
We don't do rigid, stiff poses here. We play games! We do group sandwich hugs, race toward the camera, swing kids in the air, and tell silly jokes.
If your little one needs a break to eat a marshmallow, cuddle Mom, or explore a patch of clover, we take a breath and let them lead. We have plenty of time, and there is zero rush.
You're in Great Hands!
Remember: I’ve worked with all kinds of kids, energy levels, and personalities. Whether your child is shy and quiet or a wild tornado of fun, we are going to get incredible images that capture who they truly are.
Take a deep breath, trust the process, and let's go make some fun memories together!